I am told that even though baby carrier choices are expanding, the only obvious option to most parents, especially those looking to big box stores for guidance, is the Baby Bjorn and its various knock-offs. A lot of parents have ended up equating babywearing with the Bjorn, and I come across parents all the time who say that their children, especially their boys, hate babywearing, because they only encountered that one specific type of carrier.
Not every child dislikes them, because they don’t cause pain. But they might cause some discomfort, especially if a boy’s little penis gets squished as gravity puts pressure on the pelvic bone.
The real health problem with wearing a baby in a “dangling” narrow-bottomed carrier like the Bjorn is that it forces an unnatural and unhealthy stretching in the hip joints as gravity pulls the legs straight down.As it turns out, the International Hip Dysplasia Institute has an explanation–the bottom support fabric of these carriers is too narrow, which allows gravity to cause discomfort.
As the International Hip Dysplasia Institute explains, it can take a while before babies adjust to life with more space:
After birth, it takes several months for the joints to stretch out naturally. Babies that have been in the breech (bottom first) position may need even more time to stretch out naturally. If the hips are forced into a stretched-out position too early, the ball is at risk of permanently deforming the edges of the cup shaped socket (hip dysplasia) or gradually slipping out of the socket altogether (hip dislocation). Hip dysplasia or dislocation in babies is not painful so this may go undetected until walking age and may also result in painful arthritis during adulthood. – IHDI
How Your Carrier SHOULD Look
Here’s what you want your carrier to look like, when you look in the mirror:
You Have Choices
- Babyhawk is a much-beloved company that makes a Mei Tei and a soft-structured-hybrid-style carrier. They also have a fun feature that lets you pick the fabric to design your own carrier.
- My favorite carrier in the buckle category is the new Onya carrier, but the Ergo is great, too. And if you want to wear your newborn with either carrier, Ergo sells an insert that provides the extra support you’ll need–it even comes in organic! (Onya is developing an insert, but this family run company is fairly new and still growing, so they recommend using Ergo’s insert for now.)
It is 100% worth the time to try out the different types, because some are better on different body types. I hear more petite mamas rave about Mei Teis, while dad’s rave about the Ergo. If you’re going in for a buckle/soft-structure carrier, know that you’ll be spending a bit more; the engineering and construction behind these is pretty intense, so forgive the price tag. (Mei Teis use gravity to keep the knots you tie nice and tight, but gravity is not so kind to plastic buckles!) It’s more important with structured carriers than with any other type to try out a few different brands, because each one seems to work differently on different body types.
Read the Box Carefully
They don’t cover the wraps, but that’s easy: when wrapping a baby up in a Moby® Wrap or other fabric wrap, keep those legs in the shape of the letter M, with Baby’s bottom making the dip in the middle of the letter and knees making the two peaks.
This becomes less pronounced as Baby grows and can hug your body, but the “M” rule helped me a lot when I was wearing an eight-week-old. When she does get a bit older, you can use that illustration right there to help you tuck the fabric under Baby’s bottom to make sure she’s still getting good hip support
Anne-Marie Lindsey is a stay-at-home-mom, aspiring HypnoBirthing Instructor, mental illness fighter, wife, dog owner and auntie. She writes about everything, including the beautiful, fun, peaceful, scary, stigmatized and painful on her personal blog, Do Not Faint where motherhood meets depression and anxiety!