I have a date with my husband, and I’m as excited as though I were 16 again anticipating its arrival!
Anybody else out there feel that way when you finally get time alone with your husband?
As stay-at-home moms, we are all so busy. I think I do more now in a day than I ever did when I worked an 80 hour work week in corporate America, before I had children.
But you know what?
I still think this is the best career in the world, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Except, I miss time with my husband.
We have a very good marriage. I tell people all the time, ” our marriage is better than it’s ever been!” And that’s true. It is.
He loves me, I love him. We hardly ever fuss. We enjoy each other…. but as good as our lines of communication are with each other, the responsibilities of life make it hard for us to find time for each other. And even though he is home every night after 5PM and home all weekend, so many things take us away from each other…………
I know what I’m doing here at home as a mom, teacher, writer, friend etc. – all of it is very important. Each child we are raising, we are raising for God. God has entrusted these little gifts to us to care for, nurture and raise.
I pray that each of my children all receive Christ in their hearts and follow His lead. I love each one of them and I thank God for allowing me the wonderful gift of my children and the gift of being allowed to stay home and home-school them.
“Children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them” Psalm 127:3-5
And we are very happy. This is a happy home. God is so good to us. Every need we have, he provides. We are debt free. We spend our evenings together watching movies, playing games, taking walks, etc. It’s all very pleasant.
But there are some things that I struggle with at times that our contradictory to my so called, “happiness.” I truly feel called to be a stay-at-home, home-school mom. And for the most part, everyone around me understands that and accepts it.
But being Mom is not my only role in life. I also enjoy being Amy, friend and wife, who enjoys time with my husband and other adults. I enjoy going out to eat, to movies, small groups etc.
As parents, we need time, now and then, to remember we are not just parents, we are not just Mom and Dad, we’re also still husband and wife, Amy and Lance.
Even if it’s just for two hours, once in a blue moon, to go out to dinner or see a movie together. It is a blessing. A time to rest and re-fuel.
Let me leave you today with two challenges:
- No matter what, each day, make time for God, yourself and your spouse. Your relationship to your spouse should be your #1 Priority next to your relationship with God. Cherish it. Nurture it. Build it and maintain it. Your spouse should be your best friend. Prove it.
- If you can, help each other out. We are all here to help, encourage and support each other. If you live close to another family with many children, maybe you could arrange to trade off baby-sitting once a month so that each of you could enjoy time alone with your spouse.
Maybe you and your church or home-school group could start a free Parent’s night out.
Remember when you were courting or dating? Remember the feeling of excitement, simply at the fact that you were going to see each other and be enjoying each other’s company? Find ways to keep that feeling alive in your marriage each and everyday.