“Let me get fixed up and I’ll meet you in 30 minutes.” said a woman at the grocery store to a friend. Another woman at the hair salon admired her new ‘do in the mirror and said “It’ll be easy for my to fix myself up before I leave the house. I just wasn’t fit to be in public before!”
May I just say – using the term “fix up” for applying makeup or styling hair is a term I passionately loathe. Despise even. Why?
Because the implication is we are broken by default. Our baseline beauty isn’t enough and must be FIXED or remedied before we are fit for public consumption.
In a lot of ways, this goes back the empowered woman’s dilemma, but it’s insidiously deeper still. A woman of perfection has to be a natural beauty – while at the same time accepting that what nature has given her isn’t good enough. Or even enough.
Boobs? Make them bigger. Or firmer. Or perkier.
Lips? Redder. Or plumper. Or softer.
Hair? Shinier. Or curlier. Or straighter. (Depending on what your baseline, is of course)
Skin? Teeth? Smile? Waist? Size? Feet?
And that’s not even touching the issue of clothing and jewelry.
What I want to challenge you is to accept that you are GOOD ENOUGH as is. What God created me to be is enough. MORE than enough! Yes, I like to look nice. Yes, I always a lip gloss or three tucked away in pockets and hidey-holes hither and yon.
But if my purpose in the mirror in the morning is to “fix myself up,” then I am living with a soul-sucking implication — that what God created me to be needs repair. And that’s not a healthy point of view.
What if instead of thinking of ourselves as broken dolls to be reassembled into a Barbie-world ideal of an unattainable image we truly believed what God calls us – like a valuable gem? Pearl of great price. Worth far above rubies.
Gemstones are naturally beautiful – all they need is a little polishing and rough-edge-smoothing to bring out their ALREADY EXISTENT beauty. I like the sound of that better, don’t you?
So I firmly reject the notion that we need fixing up. That we need anything more than a little bit of polishing to highlight the natural sparkle that we already possess.
When you get ready in the morning are you polishing your natural inner ruby or trying to “fix” something that isn’t broken?