This is how it (used) to go in my house on Fridays at 3pm …
Older child: “Mom , can you drive me over to Julie’s house?”
I say, “Why?”
“I’m sleeping over, remember?”
No, I say to myself
Younger child: “Mom, you promised we’d go see that new movie. Can Zoe come? I’ll call her now.”
What? Again to myself – as really, who is listening?
This carries on throughout the weekend. But lets not forget the addition of soccer games, horse riding, piano or dance recitals and then of course, a trip to the grocery store because with everyone home, the fridge empties quite fast! And then at last Monday arrives and I get back to work, in my office where it is quiet and peaceful.
I soon realized this wasn’t working too well for me, I needed to strategize a change or shift in our pattern. A plan of action was in order! This is what I did:
1. I bought a BIG calendar and put it in the kitchen – everyone must write down their weekend plans by 6pm on Thursday
2. I went grocery shopping Thursday afternoon or Friday morning. I need to be prepared for all the hungry kids who come through my door.
3. I planned some escape time for myself. This could be a hike with the husband or friend or even an early Sunday morning trip to the coffee shop.
4. Sunday afternoon became family time – no matter what! It could mean a hike, or cooking dinner together, or watching a movie.
5. At dinner, we talked and about the highs and lows of the weekend and what we may like to do the following weekend.
I should chime in here and say that I am a big softie, so these are usually just guidelines. I am open to being spontaneous either on my part or the kids’. And though I definitely do not mention that to them, who I am to fool? They probably already know!
If you have any tips on surviving the hectic crazy kid driven weekends, please let us know!